Softly Sometimes has been alive for a fraction of the time that most websites (and beauty blogs) have been up, and frankly, I feel a little bit bored with it.
I haven’t really grown tired of “beauty” or “blogging,” but I have grown tired of buying. Or at least, some aspects of it. I’ve been on a low-buy since April and I haven’t really bought a lot of beauty things since then. However, when I resubscribed to the Le Métier de Beauté Beauty Vault VIP 2014 round, it made me think about my relationship with “beauty,” or rather, beauty products… and why I often feel the need to have and to own.
To be fair to myself (heh), my case of the grabby hands has toned down quite a bit since freefalling into the world of beauty, as we have all come to know it. Whenever I asked a person unfamiliar with the world of beauty blogging the “What’s your beauty philosophy?” question for Nosy Beauty, I feel kind of weird because I don’t want them to think that this frilliness is what beauty—actual beauty—means to me. That’s another story, but I do still wonder what kind of person blogging about beauty has made me.
My perspective on both Softly Sometimes and beauty blogging in general has been shifting fairly often recently. The direction I’m headed towards is nothing groundbreaking or radically in opposition to my current perspective; just a clearer view of the “bigger picture.”
PLUS, an important question:
What do you want to see more of on Softly Sometimes?
So. What was the point of this? I’m not really sure. I do know that I want to do many things besides blogging about lipstick and eyeshadow. There are people who do this beauty gig full-time, and that’s fine, but that’s not me. And that’s okay, too. Like what Tina has shared in one of her most recent posts, I also feel like I’ve distanced myself from a lot of the things I loved. And that happened because I poured a lot of my time and energy into this little corner of happy that I’ve been working at for almost two years.
I don’t think that beauty products are necessarily at fault for this distance, obviously, but I do think that my own pursuit of making Softly Sometimes a great beauty resource has indirectly caused me to neglect a few of the other things that I used to enjoy. And while I do want to find some measure of success with this blog, since I have been working really hard on improving it and making it better, I do not want to forget to try making the rest of myself better.
I think that blogging is really wonderful, despite its bad rap (mostly from people who don’t understand, I promise), and I have no intentions of leaving it any time soon. However, while I still have a lot of ideas for posts that don’t involve hauling, and buying, and reviewing, I think what I lack is the energy and motivation to treat this as something enjoyable and fun. Sometimes it honestly kind of feels like a chore. There was a brief period where I posted everyday—sometimes even twice a day—but I saw that my content was suffering because I would put up silly posts to fill my daily post quota. And I don’t want my blog to be updated… but kind of shitty, you know?
Speaking of which, “blog,” as a word, is really silly and really fucking stupid, but I thought to myself that all of the other alternatives like online journal are just as bad, if not worse. Despite that incredible and immediate hurdle right there, I want to take this blog seriously, in that I want to make it good, but I also don’t want to take it very seriously, in that I want to make it fun for me and for you.
I don’t want to constantly be pressured to buy things because I WANT TO TRY IT, DAMMIT, and I don’t want you to feel like you have to own every new thing that they come out with. We all have a single face. ONE FACE. How many of the foundations we have can we actually use up? If we already have holy grail products, then why do we not stop looking for other things to try?
On the other hand, I don’t want to internally convulse every time I feel like I kind of might want to buy a beauty product—GASP! SHOCK. Everything has become so dramatic these days. Give me a break if I see a lipstick shade I like, Lord have mercy on us all.
I do think that buying stuff and hauling in general are being made into bigger deals than they should be, but I also think it’s because people are so freaking quick to buy buy buy. There’s nothing inherently wrong with buying things especially if you can afford all of the things—by all means, #treatyoself—but I do think that there is much to be said about picking items really, really wisely instead and maybe not pandering to every new collection that comes out because you “just had to.”
(I suppose this is a kind of PSA for myself. Blogging is supposed to be fun and a stress reliever. I’ve been feeling like I have to have it in constant surveillance, but guess what? I don’t. The numbers don’t matter nearly as much as the content you put out. And the fulfillment you get out of it, whether it’s a personal sense of accomplishment or just that swell in your chest when you get to write about something you ended up really, really loving. Or the eloquent irritation you manage to churn out when you meet a truly shitty product. Your blog needs to grow, but so do you.)
With all of that out of the way, I’d like to ask a few questions:
- What are your thoughts on any of the things I’ve touched on? Do you have a blog? Content vs. constancy—what do you value more?
- What would you like to see more of on Softly Sometimes? Any particular posts you enjoy? Anything you think needs updating? Are you sick of my face?
- Where are you on the stingy person-BUY ALL THE THINGS scale? I think I am maybe in the middle-ish. Closer to “stingy person” territory, though not terribly so.
The thing that makes me feel okay with all of this, despite the obvious issues, is the knowledge that I can stop whenever I want to. The thing that makes me feel even better is knowing that right now, I don’t have any plans to.